Dating someone from another country

13 May

Here’s one from this week, from Teddy in Ghana: I WANT TO KNOW IF DANES WOMEN WILL DATE A GHANAIAN MAN. And one from last month, from Alex: “Hi, I’d like to know if Danish girls would date a bi-racial Brazilian guy.” And one from late last year: “I’m a gay African American male who would like to date a Dane. ” Basically, a lot of the mail I get is from men, wanting to know how they can get some action in Denmark. I know of several babies of mixed heritage here in Denmark.

And after a few minutes of chatting with him, you can ask him if who that girl in the brown jacket is, and if she’s here with a boyfriend.

If she’s available, now you know the lady’s name, and she’s seen you with someone in her group, so you’re a complete stranger any more.

Worse still, her picture and profile have been plastered across tawdry dating websites belonging to ‘lads mags’ such as Nuts and Loaded that are more associated with scantily-clad girls in semi-pornographic poses than professional, middle-aged women like Jenny.

Unbeknown to Jenny, justsingle is run by a parent company called Global Personals — a legitimate company most members never will have heard of, but which passes members’ details freely between the 7,500 sites it owns, meaning they are inundated with unwanted and inappropriate advances.

While I can’t offer any personal insights on gay dating in Denmark, I can tell you that male-female dating in Denmark is hard, even for the Danes, and it will probably be hard for you too.

That’s because the process that works in much of the rest of the Western world doesn’t work in Denmark. But first, let me tell you another thing that will get you rejected.

Do some reconnaissance first, maybe do some shopping. Now, as I promised, back to how to meet women in the first place.

Danes, as I mentioned, aren’t very good with strangers. What you need to do is come into their circle of friends. Talk to him about sports, the deejay, how he knows the host if you’re at a house party.

After her marriage broke down, Jenny Beard knew finding love again wouldn’t be easy.

Not only was she 42 and the sole carer of her six-year-old son Will, but her demanding career as an accountant left her with precious little time to socialise.

Global Personals — whose headquarters are in Windsor, Berkshire — makes £40 m a year, employs 130 staff and is believed to take a 40 per cent cut of every membership subscription, with the remainder going to the spin-off company.‘Internet dating seemed the best way of meeting people,’ she says. It’s the last place you would expect to find me and a waste of time and money.